Fortunately, after a short time of her tugging, pulling, and being totally irresponsible with my hair, I had the courage and fortitude to stop her and leave without letting her to continue to ruin my hair, but unfortunately it really only takes ONE bad decision to damage hair, especially fragile curly hair... and after only spending about 30 minutes in her salon, I had already received damage.
I've already gotten well over 100 comments on that video from different views describing their past experiences with these shops and the main thing that they all seem to have in common is their poor hair practices, such as:
- Improper detangling/combing methods (using fine toothed combs on course hair and starting from the roots and forcing the comb down to the ends of the hair)
- Extremely tight braiding
- Unsterile hair tools (a few viewers even described horrible infections from these occurrences)
- Poor customer service
All or even one of these practices (except of course the bad attitudes, which is either simply a culture barrier or poor home training lol) can result in:
- Temporary Hair Loss (breakage)
- Traction Alopecia
- Thinning Hair
- Permanent Hair Loss
Fortunately for me, getting up when I did allowed me to save the overall health of my hair. And while it still looks the same to the untrained eye, dealing with my hair every single day and knowing it well has allowed me to be able to spot problematic areas and even changes.
After I left the salon I did experience damage.
My hair (particularly on the left side of my hair) experience breakage and bit of thinning out (due to the breakage) towards the ends.
So since then I have been asked share how I "bounced" back and how to deal with damage after ordeals like this so I want to just share with you a few good practices to get you back on the right track.
The first thing you want to do is GET A TRIM.
Now, I personally haven't trusted ANYONE with scissors near my head since about 2009 when I got my last big hair cut as a relaxed woman. I even did my own big chop because I didn't trust anyone.
So for my trims, I do them myself. That way I can control EXACTLY how much is coming off. But if you have a trusted beautician, you can go to a salon for this.
Explain to them that you just had a damaging experience and tell them you ONLY want to cut off the problematic areas.
This trim is not meant to be your normal trim (like your 12 week trim or how ever long you go between trims). This trim is not even supposed to make your hair back even after the damaging experience. This trim is ONLY supposed to be cutting off the areas where there is VISIBLE breakage and split ends from the damage.
You will not be doing yourself any good by going into the salon and getting a fresh new CUT. You don't have to take it that far, and it'll just make you feel even worse about the damage if you feel like now you're starting all over.
The next thing you want to do is MAKE DEEP CONDITIONING YOUR BEST FRIEND.
While your hair is recovering from damage you really want to give it as much TLC as possible. Invest in a good deep conditioner and deep condition your hair at least 1x a week. I really suggest 2x during damage times if you have the time. The focus of this conditioner should be "restorative." These conditioners are going to give your hair moisture, but it is also going to help strengthen your hair.
Note: You don't have to worry about hard protein treatments or anything like that. You don't want to put your hair in any more shock than you already have and quite frankly, protein treatments can do a lot of damage if not absolutely needed. (The only exception to this rule is if the damage you have done to your hair is color related. For example, if you just hard bleached your hair, then a hard protein treatment would definitely be necessary)
The last thing you want to do when recovering from damage is LEAVE YOUR HAIR ALONE.
I know when you're trying to get your hair on track you want to keep moisturizing it and oiling it, and all these other things you think are helping. But truthfully, all this is doing is causing you to manipulate your hair too much.
After damage try to deep condition your hair, moisturize it ONCE and then leave it alone. My best practice suggestion would be to loose bun it for a couple of days and then start the process all over again (co-wash, deep condition, moisturize, seal, and bun).
If you want to take it a step further you can simply bun your hair with the deep conditioner still in and leave it in for a day or so and really let it penetrate your hair.
This is exactly what I did after my ordeal. I came home and immediately deep conditioned my hair, bunned it, and left it alone for a few days before I went back to styling.
My next step is to give my hair a VERY SMALL trim this weekend.
I will also deep condition 2x /week with Shea Moisture's Restorative Mask.
I will continue to wear my hair in my standard wash and go, but since I don't pineapple at night, or re-apply anything to refresh my hair between washes, this is still a low manipulation hair style for me.
I hope this helps!
If you have any questions, feel free to shoot them to me!
Also, don't forget to check out the actual horror story video over on my channel!